The Truth About Self Sabotage: Why We Do It and How to Fix It

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Understanding Self-Sabotage

Self-sabotage can be a result of feeling dissatisfied with ourselves or having a strained relationship with ourselves. It can manifest in various ways, from engaging in risky behaviors to extreme forms of self-harm. For instance, individuals may turn to substance abuse as a way to cope with their internal struggles. It's important to recognize that self-sabotage is often driven by a lack of self-worth and fear of success.

Controlling Failure vs. External Factors

Believe it or not, some people prefer to control their own failure rather than leave it up to external factors. This may seem counterintuitive, but it stems from the desire to maintain control over one's circumstances. Additionally, individuals may self-sabotage to preserve their current peer groups or family dynamics. By sabotaging their own success, they can avoid potential conflicts or changes in their relationships.

Neglecting Health and Well-being

One common driving force behind self-sabotage is the tendency to neglect one's own health and well-being. It's not uncommon for individuals to prioritize others' needs over their own, leading to a gradual decline in physical and mental well-being. Avoiding conflict in relationships can also contribute to self-neglect. The stress caused by unresolved issues can lead to unhealthy habits and cravings, further perpetuating the cycle of self-sabotage.

Fixing Self-Sabotage: Practical Tips

The good news is that self-sabotage can be overcome. It starts with making small but impactful changes in your daily routine. Here are some practical tips to help you break free from the grip of self-sabotage:

  • Prioritize your foundational health: Fix your circadian rhythm, ensure you're eating protein at every meal, get more sunlight, be more physically active, prioritize social interaction, and drink high-quality water.

  • Begin by taking small steps, like going for a walk and getting more sunlight. These small wins will boost your confidence and make it easier to tackle bigger challenges.

By implementing these strategies, you'll be well on your way to overcoming self-sabotage and creating a healthier, more fulfilling life.


Self-sabotage can be a challenging obstacle in our lives, but it's not insurmountable. By understanding the underlying reasons for self-sabotage and implementing practical strategies to address it, we can break free from self-destructive patterns and create a healthier, more fulfilling life. Remember, small steps lead to big changes. Take the first step towards overcoming self-sabotage today.

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