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Understanding Self-Sabotage

Self-sabotage can be a result of feeling dissatisfied with ourselves or having a strained relationship with ourselves. It can manifest in various ways, from engaging in risky behaviors to extreme forms of self-harm. For instance, individuals may turn to substance abuse as a way to cope with their internal struggles. It's important to recognize that self-sabotage is often driven by a lack of self-worth and fear of success.

Controlling Failure vs. External Factors

Believe it or not, some people prefer to control their own failure rather than leave it up to external factors. This may seem counterintuitive, but it stems from the desire to maintain control over one's circumstances. Additionally, individuals may self-sabotage to preserve their current peer groups or family dynamics. By sabotaging their own success, they can avoid potential conflicts or changes in their relationships.

Neglecting Health and Well-being

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